Boy meets Girl...Then what?

Dating...an odd topic to be talking about on a blog...but it is something that almost every teenager wants to do or is doing. And lets be blunt it is a BIG probelm with teenagers today. They dont know what is right and what is wrong. This topic came up in Catholic League today at school. We were talking about what it that teenageers think about dating . For some people this could be an awkward topic to be having with two teachers in the room, however I think it went really well. My personal thinking about dating has changed alot over the years. Because of some of the ways I was acting I allowed myself to put into situations that I would never want to be put into every again. Becasue of this and my summer at Catholic Familyland, all of those convictions that I had about dating have changed. Over the summer we had this rule that we nicknamed C.O.D. it stands for Charity of Distance. Basically the girls and the guys had to keep distance from each other; for we were there this summer to be serving God and not to be starting some kind of romantic frenzy. That idea is something I think that we should all keep with us always. Think about it, shouldnt we always be focused on serving God? Yes, some us are called to do that in different ways such as marriage or religious life, but it is something we all should always be doing . Well anyway I think that C.O.D. is something that many people should practice. I know that that sound really weird but I truly believe that. You do not want to be getting involved with someone you dont know, dont like, or just could never even see yourself marrying; which by the way people is the reason why people date, to look for someone they think they could marry one day...not just to have "a good time with." There is such a thing as being friends with a Boy or a Girl (depends on who is reading this). The best way to learn things about people is to just spend time with them doing things you both like to do, maybe working on a job or something with them. I read someplace that the best way to get to know someone was to work with them because you see what they are like frustrated, tired, happy or just content. You can see so many sides to people just in that way. Now I am not saying that i am like anti- dating, not at all...I think it is great...but as along as it is chaste, for God and serving God. Now the ultimate question...how far is too far...now I always asked this also...so for all of you who dont know like I didnt here it is; at least this is my view and the Catholic view (I am pretty sure about this). Well basically here it is: a kiss is a kiss (not a suction-cup festivity) if it is a kiss that you would NEVER do in front of you parents you should not be doing it alone. Think of it this way...Mary and Jesus are our parents they are ALWAYS watching us...so why would we do something in front of them that we wouldnt do infront of our parents? Now of course this is all different if we are married but this is for those of us who arent. Yea so these are my views...accept them or not...yes I know some of them are extreme...but i came to these beliefs through the help of God and from learning alot from my own mistakes. Think of it this way...the apostles were called to be extreme in their time...well so are we. I hope that you all seriously think and pray about this. We want to be a better generation that any other before us...the only way to start is to do what is right!

Ephesians 5:22-33

22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. 25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. 28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, 30 because we are members of his body. 31 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. 33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.